This is not a race (contrary to popular belief, Monsieur Hare). Each step of manhood, of progression must be given due time to be explored, tested, weighed against. Learning the value of family, of identity/individual health and purpose; living in communion with the divine; how to give in loving another; how to wrangle success; to build wealth; to impart knowledge; to fight for a cause; to educate oneself about the world around him; to pursue interests and passions --- these are all ONGOING DRAMAS, and we do ourselves a disservice when we force or neglect or bypass the unfolding.
You may feel that you "should have had this figured out by now" (whatever today's this is) - relationships, money, faith, etc. - but if you don't, then you haven't, simple as that. And this whole "by now" idea is misleading, I think. Think Groundhog Day. (I'm gonna preach a little Phil Connors wisdom here.) Phil, by all accounts, is immortal, trapped in an endless return. With this, the procession (and the weight) of time are eradicated. What if this were you? Hell, what if you were guaranteed 150 years? Would you approach life, maturity differently? "BY NOW" is a dead end. Think "WHAT NOW?" instead.
Acknowledge where you are, truly, and go from there. And certainly don't weigh yourself, your worth, your path against another's. This defeats the entire progression.
Take your time, my friends.
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